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Shocked and saddened to hear the news when I woke up this morning. I had only recently been watching the brilliant "split Enz" DVD which features a doco about the "Enz with a bang" tour. Paul, forever the clown, was fooling around with Eddie in the water melon clip. On the DVD, Eddie later credits Paul with keeping Enz together in 1983 with the his raw enthusiasm and antics that he injected into the band.
For me, he was a brilliant drummer, right up there with the world's best, totally zany and entertaining on stage. A terrible loss for the Australian Music Industry and the Music World but more importantly for his two young daughters and girlfriend. My thoughts go out to them.
It sounds like a tragic set of circumstances too that surrounded his death.
Thanks Hessie for the pleasure you brang to everyones lives,we'll miss you..........
I cried this morning reading all of these messages. The tears just started to flow. I don't know what to say but I had to say something. My thoughts, feelings and love go out to Paul's family, friends, and fans all over the world.

Again we realise how precious life is, and how we can so often take it for granted. All we can do is try to be kinder to ourselves, our friends, our families and our neighbours. Even then, this is sometimes not enough but all we can do is keep trying.

Thankyou Paul, for everything that you have given to the world. You are so missed.
I also want to express my condolences.

There's an article posted from when he left CH with a very interesting comment about Kurt Cobain's suicide:

Q:"What was the turning point?"

A: "Just a week before, while we were in New York, Kurt Cobain shot himself. And I'd never met him or anything but in a funny way it made me think of all that. I just thought, How can you do that with a kid and a girl? All right, your band thing's ****ed but... It just made you think about all those things. He must have got to a point where he couldn't deal with it."
Just another voice in the crowd right now, but...

I had a friend who got to interview Paul for a music magazine. I still have that cassette and am going to try to listen to it tomorrow. :-(

There is nothing to say; we are all so sad and shocked. I can only imagine the concert tomorrow night at the RAH. Please, post reviews and keep us updated on the lads' demeanors and how they are holding up under the incredible sadness and strain.

Deepest condolences to Neil, Tim, Mark, Nick, Mardi, the girls, Peter, and all who knew him and loved him.

I will never forget this quote..I don't remember where I read it and don't even remember who said it but it was in a music magazine in the 80's and the quote was "Paul is a comic and a drummer but he is NO comic drummer!" ...I am wearing my ENZSO shirt and have been playing CH cds all morning although I don't know what to think about a CD I have which was bought from FOTE a few years ago now, "Roxy Theatre, Atlanta USA, 14/04/94...the CD title is "Paul is Dead"...I'm finding that difficult Frowner
I never got the chance to meet Paul nor did I know him, but I feel like I have lost a true friend. I have never cried at the lost of a so called "celebrity" but I have today. Paul was the melody, the inspiration and the humour of Crowded House and a damn fine drummer to boot. Listening to Crowded House will now have a different feeling to it - I have to admit I don't like it at all - this is something we will all have to get used to - I don't want to feel like I want to cry when I hear one of those beautiful melodies or a bit of "quirkiness" from Paul. It was bad enough when I learnt that there was no more crowded house!!

I send my wishes out to everyone today and the next few days that sheds a tear for Hessie. I can say nothing more to his girlfriend and his 2 daughters but sorry for their most devastating loss.

Paul - Rest in Peace and thanks for beautiful music and memories.
I'm still trying to cope with this, having denied it for a while after finding out during Easter dinner. Came home, opened a can of The Best Cold Beer (c'mon, doesn't everyone know what that is now thanks to Paul?), and read all these wonderful postings and stories. Spotting all the typos in the media reports lightens the mood a little, but the fact is I can't sleep out of sadness, I'm trying to face bringing my copy of _Afterglow_ to work on Monday (with Paul's signature on the cover), and I'm wondering, though far from Melbourne, what I possibly could do to comfort more people who are hurting so much right now. Take care all.
In a very odd way, Paul Hester is the guy who sucked me deep into the Crowded House universe. I had obviously listened to Split Enz in the 70s and was also familiar with Crowded House, but I wasn't a huge fan.

Then I saw them on US' The Tonight Show doing Distant Sun. During the last chorus, Paul gives a couple of impromptu shouts at JUST the right time. It was at that exact moment that I became absolutely hooked. Odd how a little moment like that becomes the pivotal moment. But I remember it as if it were yesterday.

I'm thinking now of Neil's song, lyrics that are almost painful to quote:

Anytime (come without warning)
Anytime (it could be so easy)
A walk in the park (or maybe when I'm sleeping)
Anytime (see the clouds come over)
Rain or shine (I make you so unhappy)
Let's make it right


And here's more of the sad details:
Oh My God...

I only found out this morning after my mum showed me the article in The Age about it. I didn't belive her but after i'd seen the article I was just devestated. I can't belive that such a beautiful human being would take their own life...

Paul, you have been an ispiration to me, and in times of trouble I have always turned to you and your music for will be sorely missed, you are the reaosn I became a drummer. I love you and you will be forever in my memeory. Thank you and goodbye.

Kate. Frowner
Some really freaky stories regarding Paul and the comments about Kurt and that "Paul Is Dead" thing and all that...yeesh.

Originally posted by Fingal:
[qb]I have never cried at the lost of a so called "celebrity" but I have today.[/qb]
I haven't cried yet, oddly enough. I've just been having these periods where I'll just sit there in disbelief, and my stomach'll occasionally be doing knots. I don't like that stomach feeling, I really don't.

Originally posted by Fingal:
[qb]Listening to Crowded House will now have a different feeling to it - I have to admit I don't like it at all - this is something we will all have to get used to - I don't want to feel like I want to cry when I hear one of those beautiful melodies or a bit of "quirkiness" from Paul.[/qb]
No kidding. I was debating for a while earlier this afternoon whether or not I wanted to watch the "Something So Strong" video when it came on TV this evening-I wanted to, but yet I didn't want to, ya know? But I did anyway, and I just sat there and stared at it (and it didn't help matters that he pops up a lot in that particular video). Oddly enough, though, while I've been a bit uneasy about watching some of the band's stuff that I have on tape, I've been thinking of listening to some of the band's songs...I'm dealing with all of this in a very weird way, at least, it's weird for me.

Originally posted by Joel:
[qb]This is the first time i've experienced the loss of a hero in the entertainment industry.[/qb]
Second time for me-back in February of 2003, Howie Epstein, the bass player for one of my favorite bands, Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers, died of a drug overdose-I heard about it on the radio one morning. And now another band I love suffers the loss of one of its members. That kinda disturbs me, and I pray that everyone else from all of my favorite bands sticks around for a very, very long time.

Also, Semi-Detached, thanks for the U2 lyrics-I've been listening to a few of their songs today-those lyrics are just what I needed right now, interestingly enough.

Beloved comments for a commrade in music who like so many others who find solace in the chords found the melody too hard to bear.Thankyou so much Paul for your part in the soundtrack of my growing years.
As like many awoken by the news this am and couldn't comprehend a light so bright had gone.The lyrics seem deeper and so reflective at the moment.The tears and the smiles mix into the cocktail of the questions left behind.Celluloid and musical heroes always remain young in our hearts.Remembering the triumphs and the talent of one so beautiful in spirit to me.Rest in the arms of the beats of the brush strokes of your next lifetime. for those who feel they need help when their door slams and you can't find the key.There is a way out beyond the blue.
I saw CH for the upteenth time in the early nineties at the 21st Century in Frankston when Tim had joined. I yelled out to Neil to play 'Massive' but got no reply. During the encore Paul said to the audience 'So who wanted me to play 'Massive'. Get up here and sing it'. Stage fright got the better of me but they played it anyway. Neil was to later say it was their worst gig ever because of tensions within but for me it was their best. Hessie pulled it together with a couple of gags.
Thanks Paul for the memories and the 'show off snare drummming' during live performances of Sister Madly.
You will be sadly missed.
i can't stop reading all these posts. its a blessing to be able to draw comfort from other frenz, especially since its such an odd sensation, something that alot of people wont understand - grieving the loss of someone you don't actually know.

paul as the chef on the wiggles was the reason that as an adult i remembered there was a band i loved as a 10 year old in the 80s... crowded house. that reminder truely changed the direction of my life, just as so many of you have been changed by paul and CH.

thank you paul hester.

my prayers and love for his family and friends, and hugs to peter, as well as all of the frenz who are united in mourning.
For whatever it's worth, I sent email to the morning DJ for our local AAA radio station here in Pittsburgh to request a track or two tomorrow morning... It's all I could think of to do for now...

I don't know if it's just wanting other people to hear the music he had a part in making, or just trying to feel empowered in a mostly helpless situation, but what the hey...
Wow, I just heard about this 20 mins ago. I'm in such shock.

It's so odd........I knew it. I was driving to pick up my daughter from her friend's house yesterday, and out of the blue, I thought "Paulo is dead" and i don't know where it came from. I remember exactly where I was on the road when I had the thought, and he's been on my mind ever since. This is so awful.

I'm just so shocked. I can't even cry. It's a very unsettling thing to have sensed that something this awful has happened and then find out it is true.

What a terrible tragedy.

I havent read through all the posts yet, so I don't know if this has been posted already, but someone has started a condolences/Paul memories site. Here is the link.

In a few days, I'll send the link to PG.
Paul was a great drummer and his groove and joy drove Crowded House. Best wishes to his family and friends.

A couple weeks ago, I complained that during many of the videos Paul would too often do something goofy at an emotional point in the song... now those points in the videos are going to make me cry. And I don't cry...

They're only songs... be goofy Paul!!!!

Hi Paul
You know, today it is apparent your wonderful charisma and enduring sparkling humour was really borne and reborn of the vast chasm of the darkness and the pain you must have known, in private moments and in the safety of your private world. Today I am so deeply sorry I wasn't able, if I could have helped you in some small way. Losing you is a tragedy, we confess, the pain is practically too great for the many who call you friend, and who love you unconditionally as a brother (loving partner, and loving father of your two beautiful girls).

God bless you Paul, for all the joy you brought to the lives of so many. God bless us all in our struggle to come to terms with your decision, if life without you is what you wanted for us, for us that is the hardest lesson of all.

PS, that pruned and manicured crop of yours, the shine in those bright eyes, the crease in your cheeks and those laughter lines etched into your gentle face... Now we must journey into the interior without you, and every step we take still needs to be steady and sure. Rest In Peace forevermore.

Special love from Claire
Selected Poems of W.H. Auden
by W. H. Auden
Stop all the clocks, cut off the telephone,
Prevent the dog from barking with a juicy bone,
Silence the pianos and with muffled drum
Bring out the coffin, let the mourners come.

Let aeroplanes circle moaning overhead
Scribbling on the sky the message He Is Dead,
Put cr�pe bows round the white necks of the public
Let the traffic policemen wear black cotton gloves.

He was my North, my South, my East and West,
My working week and my Sunday rest,
My noon, my midnight, my talk, my song;
I thought that love would last for ever: I was wrong.

The stars are not wanted now: put out every one;
Pack up the moon and dismantle the sun;
Pour away the ocean and sweep up the wood.
For nothing now can ever come to any good. of a kind, he was. I'm grateful that the US media has picked up coverage, and hopefully will increase the awareness about depression and suicide. No family, no person should ever have to deal with such pain without help. His talent touched us all. His humor was enjoyed the world over. I couldn't be more upset.

I think we're all in the same leaky boat wondering just what it is we can do to help, to comfort and to understand. Much love to all.

I recieved the news from a friend via email today and just cried. I fell in love with Crowded House from all the exposure they got in the States on MTV, and Paul was a big part of that, he looked like he was always having such a good time, I had no idea... I'm personally grateful to be surrounded by great friends who share my love of music and the people that make it for us, and hope everyone here realizes there's always someone in your life to turn to when you can't find the answers.

be safe everyone.
Just saw this news about an hour's posted on the front page of the website of now.

I chose this screen name a few years ago in homage to a funny Paul Hester moment...when he played a show in Seattle at Bumbershoot in 90 or 91, he dedicated a song to Benoit Benjamin, at the time a mediocre, underachieving center for the Seattle Supersonics basketball team. I remembered it years later - thinking how funny it was that he knew the name of this third-rate American basketball player.

That show took place at the end of a summer when I probably listened to Woodface 80-90 times during the course of my daily work. I've always had a soft spot for 'Italian Plastic', and its radiant absurdity.

I've been listening to my CH/Finn mix on the iPod for the last hour, since I heard this news. So many songs that are oddly resonant in a moment like this...Time Immemorial, How Will You Go, Anytime, Love This Life, etc... I know that when my grandfather passed away two years, the first song that I listened to was Neil's 'Lullaby Requiem' - it and other Crowded House & Neil Finn songs helped me to deal with the pain of this loss - as I imagine has been the same for many of you in times of grief.

I can only hope that Paul's family and friends can take solace in the memory of his life and the fellowship of shared remembrance. Paul, Rest in peace.
There's not much to add to all the wonderful things people have said and the beautiful sentiments shared on this and many other forums.

I hope Paul has found peace and we can only pray for his frinds & family who'll need all our love & support.
Much loved & much missed...the music will sound so much different now but like all good memories that is what will endure.
He's left a fine musical legacy and that alone is reason to be thankful - whilst we remember him his spirit will never leave us -

God bless you Paul
*****Goodbye Mrs Hairy Legs *******

Paul, Gaia has lost one of her favourite sons.

The world was once brighter and interesting with you here, standing for non mediocrity, you were many's guiding light in an ocean of crap.

Spirited, lively, vibrant, and crazily infected with the enthusiasm that most mere mortals would envy,..... I wish you eternal peace, for the places you came from, to the places you are yet to visit.

Couch day today, revisiting all the clips that showcased your brilliance....
I sit here and weep.
Somehow the songs don't sound the same.

Ruth H.
Gee... front page of as well?!

Australian Pay-TV Channel MusicMax are still going nuts, cancelling their original program line-up, and basically declaring this a Crowded House/Paul Hester day, playing all the CH videos, alternating them with the 2004 Finn Brothers Max Sessions concert hosted by Paul (replayed at least 4 times now!) & the 1996 Farewell Concert. Which is a good way to help fans slowly get over what happend, but if only we got to see all this stuff because of something positive. It makes me feel guilty taping all this stuff.

Channels 7 & 9 in Australia have just headlined their 4:30 afternoon news bullitens with the story; Channel 7 with an interview with Molly Meldrum, Channel 9 with Richard Wilkins. Both items ran for several minutes including archive footage & highlights. Channel 9 also included an interview with Mark Saymour (brother of Nick).

What has just freaked me out, however, is Channel 10's 5:00pm news bulliten (of which Paul Hester was again the headline story) showing actual footage of this forum. On national television we all saw Dean's post (which was also quoted in some newspaper articles), and got a close-up of vieoray's "oh my god" post (both are from page 1 of this thread). This forum now makes the national news, and Deb is quoted in newspapers!

If anyone wants transcripts, let me know.

Frowner Frowner Frowner
Rest in Peace Paul Hester

or if you can't do that...

Make sure you bang those drums loudly in heaven and have a good time with Ray Charles, John Lennon, George Harrison, Jimmy Hendrix, etc...

Wasn't there an old song/saying that heaven must have one hell of a band?

Well now they have a really good drummer.

My regards to Mardi and the Kids.

Peter Holden
(been awhile since the last post, and certainly a sad time to post again).
Whoa, really-this forum seriously appeared on the news? Yeowza...that's...weird. Very, very weird.

My sister had turned it to CNN after I told her that the news websites here had stories about this. They had a little thing scrolling across the bottom that was mentioning it, but unfortunately, it came on right as they were going to a commercial, so I didn't get to see the whole thing, as it got cut off. But I'm continuing to watch anyway in case they show it again.

Also, I was saying this in the Next Exit boards...the news stories I read on MSN and Yahoo! are now saying the way he did this as well. But I won't post that here-I'll let you all decide whether or not you want to read that, as some people might not want to know that information.


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