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Jeremy and Nicola wrote:

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Boys please go home if you feel you want to.
I completely agree with this. Neil was in a band with Paul, and Tim shared a house with him earlier on. These 2 must be hurting.

Sometimes its not necessary to put the fans first. We are family by default. We understand. The Finns have never let us down yet, and would not be doing so if they chose to join Paul's family and friends in grieving for him now.

I wasn't experiencing the excitement of the upcoming gigs, but I feel sure that all their genuine fans would completely understand - and agree with - a postponement, if that is what they feel they need to do.

Just do what you have to do guys...
I'm so saddened to hear the news. I wasn't aware of the bouts of depression that he suffered from. Reading Peter Green's'Famous for 16 Minutes' diary from late 2004 Peter mentioned that Paul had plans to wed in May and referred to how glad he was to see the happy Paul again and a recent period of darkness had seemed to have passed. Depression is such an insidious disease.
I had watched Dreaming the Videos recently and loved the capers of the boys Paul in particular. I loved how he lightened the mood of the videos of the more serious songs showing they didn't have to be taken so seriously. Unfortunately I never had the chance to see him in concert and had hoped to see a full reunion of Crowded House members someday.
My heart goes out to his loved ones, family and friends, it must be such a difficult and painful time they're facing right now and in the days ahead.
I hope you find peace Paul. Thank you for the rhythm, the music,the memories and your wonderful humour.

"...now I'm walking again to the beat of a drum and I'm counting the steps to the door of your heart only the shadows ahead barely clearing the roof get to know the feeling of liberation and relief."
God bless
Orla
I guess the previous poster was referring to Elsternwick Park, where Paul was found...

A very sad thing. And a timely, poignant reminder to anyone who feels depressed... It's very likely there are many people who care about you. Don't give up, get help. Call Lifeline for a start...

Nobody who has never felt the dark walls closing in on them can fully understand the tricks a depressed mind can play on a person. Look out for your friends and buddies whom you think may be affected.

Rest in Peace, Paul. The torment is over.
Just read the news this morning that Paul Hester had committed suicide. I'm stunned.

I started listing to Crowded House music when I was down in Melbourne to visit a friend at Springwood Cemetry. He had hung himself. He had a rough childhood and was devastated that the woman he was in love with before moving to Sydney was getting married. The police found him in his apartment on my one day shy of my 20th birthday.

Even though I haven't been in active in the music scene for years ( I'm lucky if I buy one CD a year ), Crowded House music has the signifcant place in my life. It helped me deal with a senseless loss of a friend.

I don't know what to say. It's odd I feel so bad for someone I didn't know apart from what I've read in books. I did work very briefly at the Black Dog Institute, a depression research centre, and I'm feeling an weird sense of guilt that I couldn't help Paul Hester out. Very strange.
I'd thought about playing CH earlier today, but couldn't bring myself to do it. Then I decided, all right, in his honor, "Italian Plastic." I kept listening through the end of Woodface, and I don't think I'll ever hear that sequence the same way again. Especially because I'd managed (not for the first time) to forget about the final "hidden track." I'd thought I was sending Paul off with "How Will You Go," and there he was shrieking cheerful lewdness in my ear. It fits.

Evvie
First off, let me wish everyone a very Happy Easter., despite the very terrible news. I hope that everyone spent the day reflecting, remember and enjoying the music and memories that Paul helped create for us all.

I was lucky enough to catch my first CH show in 1989 at Shriver Hall in Baltimore MD. It had perhaps the most significant impact on my musical future and to this day, the recognize CH as my biggest influence. It was the kind of show, the kind of band, the kind of life I wanted to create for myself. Paul Hester was 1/3rd of that influence. And on occasions too numerous to even fathom, I played CH records, which only helped to create the memories that have since become my own history. I can still recall, as if it were yesterday, going on a long distance run in the spring through the woods for miles with "Temple Of Low Men," playing on my walkman. I will never forget that run. My heart, thoughts and prayers go out to the family.

It's very sad news indeed. I am lucky in that I am afforded the luxury of being able to thank them every time I get to perform one of their songs. It's a musical 'tipping of my hat' to those three musicians who have always inspired me.

On that note, I am going to use this Monday night's show in Annapolis, MD (49 West) as a night dedicated to the music and memories of my favorite band. If anyone lives nearby, and would like to share in some song, you are most welcome.

Peace & Love Everyone,
Dan
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Well put "35000 feet over Tasman".

I'll never forget the first time I met Paul, at a Frenz picnic on the banks of the Yarra River. He had just joined Split Enz and he had bright bleeched hair. When I asked him to smile for my camera - he stuck his finger up his nose! He always had great timing. The photo was sublime - pure Paul. He was always very accommodating to the fans, signing autographs and endlessly posing for happy snaps. It's so sad that he had been suffering so much. I'm thinking of and praying for everyone touched by his life and saddened by his death, particularly those who knew and loved him best - his family and friends.
"He goes on, and on"
Looking back through the posts, I'm struck by how many there have been on the topic over such a short period of time and how personal they've all been. It's particularly noteworthy to see messages from people who are posting for the first time or who rarely post.

Obviously, more people must be keeping up with Frenz-related news than I certainly could've ever imagined, which is heartening during a time such as this . . .
I am both shocked and devastated at Paul's passing. As Pete G said, none of it makes sense.

I want to pay tribute by saying thank you to Paul for the memories. There were plenty of them on the journey, both good and bad, but they will live with us forever. Not only the magnificent music and live performances, but the unique banter Paul had on stage with the Crowdies. He made you laugh that is for sure. I am sure I will be getting out some of the Crowdie concerts to reminse.

Maybe the circumstances make it worse for us all- it is tragic when anyone takes thier own life. I can only image what Mardi and his two little girls are going through at the moment. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

To his family and friends, all the fans collectively send thier condolences to the Hester family. I know Neil, Nick and Tim will be doing it tough upon hearing this news- you don't forget a guy like Paul and he will never be forgotton.

R.I.P Paul Hester
I've just found this article on the Nine MSN website:

Hester committed suicide says website
10:30 AEDT Mon Mar 28 2005


Australia's entertainment industry is in shock as news emerges that former Crowded House drummer Paul Hester may have taken his own life.

Hester, 46, the father of two girls, was found dead at Elsternwick Park in Brighton on Sunday. He was last seen walking his two dogs on Saturday night.

Victorian police would not release Hester's name, but a spokeswoman said a body had been found in the park about 1pm (AEST), and the death was not suspicious.

Fan website frenz.com reported Hester had committed suicide.

"Frenz.com deeply regrets to inform you that Paul Hester of Split Enz, Crowded House, Largest Living Things, and many other great projects, has taken his own life," the website said.

"It is not a hoax or a rumour. At this point, it has been confirmed though we have no other details at this time."




Hester played in several Melbourne bands before joining New Zealand band Split Enz in 1983.

He and Neil Finn formed Crowded House with bassist Nick Seymour in 1985.

Finn, along with brother Tim, is in the United Kingdom for four dates at the Royal Albert Hall in London, but may postpone the performances to fly to Melbourne on Sunday.

"I am deeply saddened by the loss of a close friend," Finn said.

Entertainment reporter Richard Wilkins enjoyed a working relationship with Hester, particularly during the Crowded House days.

"I was a big fan and liked him enormously," Wilkins said.

"He was really well respected. He was a great drummer and a great singer and a great band member."

Crowded House fans have expressed their sadness on various websites.

"He is the one memory I have from skipping school when I was 15 to go to a soundcheck on the 'Enz with a Bang' tour," said one fan.

"The only thing I remember about that day is Paul, wearing pointy black suede boots, black jeans and a bright pink shirt, which he lifted to flash his stomach and chest at me."

Another fan, Dean, said he felt as though he had lost a member of his own family.

"Feels like I lost a part of my family," the Crowded House devotee said.

"I know the last few years of Crowded House were hard on him (Hester), but I figured everything since was going all right."

Hester quit Crowded House in 1994 but had reinvented himself as a drummer for hire and owner of the Elwood Beach Cafe.

He had his own music chat show, Hessie's Shed, on ABC TV in the late 1990s, was the host of Music Max Sessions, a series of acoustic concerts, on Foxtel and made a number of guest radio and TV appearances, including a semi-regular role on the popular Austereo radio program Martin/Molloy.

He lived in Elwood - a fashionable bayside suburb of Melbourne - with his girlfriend Mardi Sommerfeld and their two daughters aged eight and 10.
I'm still in a bit of shock, and so very sad. Aside from the brilliant music of Crowded House, Paul was a big part of the draw for me, just because he seemed to be such a joker. Even my kids love Paul, as they know him as "Paul The Chef" from The Wiggles TV show. He was an amazing talent, and clearly a man who was loved and admired by many.

I lost my father under similar circumstances almost 9 years ago. My heart goes out to Paul's girlfriend and two girls. Perhaps in time, they can accept, if not understand this tradgedy. Suicide is such a selfish act. I know often times people suffering from depression think that it's the only way out, and that it relieves their loved ones from the burden of living with someone suffering from this illness, but the truth is, it's the exact opposite. It causes anger and hurt and leaves far too many questions and "what ifs" for those left behind.

Paul - I hope that you are now free from the pain and suffering that was terrible enough to cause you to not want to see another day. May you rest in peace, and may all those whose lives you have touched be able to recall the good times, even in light of such tradgedy and sadness. It's such a shame you couldn't see just how much you really meant to the world and those around you.
Oh my lord this has thrown me for a loop and I really don't know how to react. I haven't posted here in eons, but feel the need to now. Crowded House was the soundtrack to my youth. There is not a band that I hold in higher regard. When they were on the Temple of Low Men tour, I had private boxs seats to the concert, but they canceled the tour just before our stop. So I was never blessed to see them live, but I have several concerts on videotape. I knew Paul was in a bad place when they did the Intimate and Interactive at MuchMusic and he was all over the place. He left the band several days after. But it was so long ago that this really comes as a shock. Well, peace be with you Paul and my thoughts are with his family and friends.
I just found out the news in of all places the Duran Duran fan community site--thanks to whomever posted that, but the news has put me in a state of shock.

This will take some time for me to grasp and understand.

I hope that despite his demons he somehow knew that we loved him. We can all wish that we could have done or said something to make a difference, but we do not have that kind of guarantee even if we had. The ones who have had a chance to meet or talk to him give yourselves a pat on the back--you may have kept him with us one more day.

We are so sorry Paul, and we shall miss you. But you are forever in our hearts and our ears.....


Condolences to his family and friends and to all fellow forum members.
I feel weird that what I wrote on the frenz.com home page was quoted in a paper. Hey, I'M not reporting suicide. It was reported to me, and I wanted to put it on frenz.com because I was getting a lot of emails asking if this was a hoax, rumour, or early April Fools prank.

I also tend to get a lot of mails from people who think that I know more than is let out to the public. Sometimes I do, and in this case I don't, and I wanted people to know that too. I wish I knew more, but I don't. Peter hasn't contacted me, and I'm certainly not going to contact him. I'll wait for him to reach out to me (or all of you) with whatever info he wants me to share.

I wish Paul could have seen these nearly 200 posts before he made the choice he made. The fact that nobody saw this coming reminds me to love and appreciate those in my life and show that to them while they are around.
I've had clinical depression for a number of years. Listening to Crowded House and Split Enz is sometimes the only thing I look forward to in my day. I especially love watching and listening to Paul and his antics. He never fails to put a smile on my face, no matter how bleak I feel.

Thankyou Paul.

"...Paul was one of around 10 drummers who were auditioned by the band...By the third audition, he'd had enough. He pulled out a portable cassette deck and, holding it up in 'record' mode, asked them: 'Have I got the job?'"

-Stranger Than Fiction: The Life and Times of Split Enz (by Mike Chunn)

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Yep, that's the media for you, Deb...

For you news followers, here's another 'alternative' news article: CLICK HERE. Although it doesn't tell us anything we didn't already know.

I've just seen the Channel 7 (Australia) news item. Molly Meldrum was even interviewed!

Austalian Pay-TV channel Music Max is also going nuts, currently screening the Finn Brothers Max Sessions, of which Paul was the host. They've even got a "In Memory of Paul" watermark up there...

Take care everyone.
For those who don't wish to register, the item is as follows:

Music world mourns an 'incredible showman'
By Jesse Hogan
March 28, 2005 - 11:15AM

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Hester poses for a photo to accompany a feature article in The Sunday Age in 1997.
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Australian music guru Ian "Molly" Meldrum believes the local music industry has lost an "incredible showman" with the death of Paul Hester.

The former Crowded House and Split Enz drummer took his own life in a Melbourne park on the weekend after taking his dogs for a walk. He was 46.

Meldrum said this morning that Hester never abandoned his Melbourne roots throughout his long and successful career.

"I may have sat down with Paul in New York, and he might have been away for months, and all he wanted to know was what was going on in Melbourne, who was winning the footy. That's the sort of bloke he was," Meldrum told radio 3AW.

"One can never underestimate how respected Crowded House were throughout the world. To have success on the charts is one thing, but to be absolutely respected by your peers is another, and Paul Hester was certainly one of those musicians.

"He was just an incredible showman, as much as anything else."

Meldrum was shocked by news the drummer had long battled depression. He had last seen Hester in November last year, when they filmed a Channel Seven program Australian Legends.

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Advertisement"There was myself, Paul and Glenn Shorrock, and we filmed most of the day. He had Glenn and I, and the crew, just in tears at times. His story about how he had to fill in for Midnight Oil drummer Rob Hirst is one of the funniest rock 'n' roll stories I've ever heard in my life," Meldrum said.

"He had a wicked sense of humour, and I almost liken it to the wonderful sort of humour The Beatles had, and certainly John Lennon.

"He had the cheekiest face you could ever see. He didn't even really have to say anything. He'd just give you a look and you'd just crack up."

Hester played in several Melbourne bands before joining New Zealand band Split Enz in 1983.

He and Split Enz member Neil Finn formed Crowded House with bassist Nick Seymour in 1985.

Finn, along with brother Tim, is in the United Kingdom for four dates at the Royal Albert Hall in London, but may postpone the performances to fly to Melbourne today.

"I am deeply saddened by the loss of a close friend," Finn said.

The drummer Hester replaced in Split Enz, Mal Green, described him as extremely generous.

"Apart from being a fantastic drummer and an extreme wit, a man of generous spirit," he told ABC radio this morning. "I actually had a drum kit stolen from me and I had an important gig to do and he called me and offered me his equipment which was very touching."

Entertainment reporter Richard Wilkins enjoyed a working relationship with Hester, particularly during the Crowded House days.

"I was a big fan and liked him enormously," Wilkins said.

"He was really well respected. He was a great drummer and a great singer and a great band member."

Crowded House fans have expressed their sadness on various websites.

"He is the one memory I have from skipping school when I was 15 to go to a soundcheck on the 'Enz with a Bang' tour," said one fan.

"The only thing I remember about that day is Paul, wearing pointy black suede boots, black jeans and a bright pink shirt, which he lifted to flash his stomach and chest at me."

Another fan, Dean, said he felt as though he had lost a member of his own family.

"Feels like I lost a part of my family," the Crowded House devotee said.

"I know the last few years of Crowded House were hard on him (Hester), but I figured everything since was going all right."

Hester quit Crowded House in 1994 but had reinvented himself as a drummer for hire and owner of the Elwood Beach Cafe.

The present owner of the Elwood Beach Cafe, Sana Zeneldin, said she bought it off Hester and fellow musician Joe Camilleri about four years ago.

"This place was special to him, but they wanted to get back to their recording," she said.

"We are quite shocked at what happened."

Hester had his own music chat show, Hessie's Shed, on ABC TV in the late 1990s, was the host of Music Max Sessions, a series of acoustic concerts, on Foxtel and made a number of guest radio and TV appearances, including a semi-regular role on the popular Austereo radio program Martin/Molloy.

He lived in Elwood - a fashionable bayside suburb of Melbourne - with his girlfriend Mardi Sommerfeld and their two daughters aged eight and 10.

- with AAP

For immediate help telephone Lifeline on 131 114 or the Suicide Helpline 1300 651 251
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Originally posted by Texas Rose:
[qb]You keep thinking that if you can read enough and learn enough about it, you will understand, or you will be less bewildered.[/qb]
I guess that's what I'm looking for. It all just seems so confusing and frustrating to me. I keep coming back to the boards and my E-mails all day and this evening, I just can't let it go. I know even after I go to bed I'll be popping back to the computer now and then.

Tracy
Why Paulo why? Well, you had your reasons and we respect that.

Thank you for all the music and the memories. Sleep with the angels, dude. We miss you and will never forget you.

I don't believe in painted roses
Or bleeding hearts
While bullets rape the night of the merciful
I'll see you again
When the stars fall from the sky
And the moon has turned red
Over One Tree Hill

We run like a river
Run to the sea
We run like a river to the sea
Thank-you both for the replies. Today's the day where i'm having my first cry. Last night I was just in shock and denial since there were really no official press releases or anything at that time. But today it is official. Paul is no longer with us.

This is the first time i've experienced the loss of a hero in the entertainment industry. It's very strange, i'm crying, I don't undertand why. We weren't connected as relatives or anything but we did connect through music. It's amazing how the most distant links have the most discernable effect on someone. Crowded House are my favourite band, but crying over it sounds a bit obessessive to me, they obviously mean more to me than I care to consciously acknowledge.

But once again thank-you for the support, it has helped.
I didn't know Paul; I'd never met him, but I'm extremly saddened to hear the news of his death. My sympathy goes out to his daughters and to his family and friends as they now deal with his loss.
He was a part of my life through Split Enz and Crowded House and I will always be grateful for the happiness he brought to us through the music.
Whatever unbearable feelings Paul had and he felt he could no longer live with, are something we will never understand.
Wherever you are now, Paul, I hope you are at peace.
Karen

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