Domestic niggles...............

No you're not the only one..but as my partner is a woman I don't have the "toilet seat" problem.The only thing that really drives me crazy is her obession over looking for something that's been lost.I'm the type that figures it'll show up at some point..she thinks of NOTHING else until she finds it.Other than that..no real complaints.I guess I'm lucky

Brandi

Not all men leave the toilet seat up. Anyway, do you lift the seat up when you're finished? If a lady expects a man to put the seat down then the man should expect the women to lift the seat up. I believe that in a relationship you give what you get, you get breakfast in bed then you should get your partner breakfast in bed, your partner wants you to put on a costume for sex then you should get something from him/her in return. Your partner doesnt do the dishes then you dont do his/her washing and so on and so on. Men and women are equal so when it comes to a relationship there should not be one person recieving all the time, it's just not fair. Domestic niggles can actually be good because your partner can learn more about you when you let your frustrations out about their niggles and vice versa and most of the time a few of those little niggles will go away.

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Not all men leave the toilet seat up. Anyway, do you lift the seat up when you're finished? If a lady expects a man to put the seat down then the man should expect the women to lift the seat up.

I agree with a lot of your post Melmo, but I have a teensy argument with the toilet seat part. The way I see it, women do two things on the toilet with the seat down. Men do one thing with the seat up and one thing with the seat down. So, since three out of four possible activities on the toilet require the seat being down, the seat should be put in that position after use. Also, what's the worse that can happen if the seat is left down in the dead of night and a guy takes a piss without lifting the seat? Now think about the worse that can happen if the seat is left up in the middle of the night and a woman or man sit down to do whatever business is at hand? I'm sure it has happened to many of us and it is NOT PLEASANT.

Go Grace!!!!!

Don't get me wrong me and hubby are pretty good at balancing stuff out most of the time and there's a lot of stuff that I do that gets on his nerves.......for example I hoover every day, sometimes twice (my kids are asthmatic) but he doesn't understand why I hoover around the furniture most times.

Thats easy.....between studying and school I don't have time to shift furniture! Consequently he does the major hoover job once a week and puts his martyr hat on.

I just grin and say 'Oh thank you baby!'

I have to say on the positive side of domestic arrangements he is just fab getting up for the kids .....which he does a lot!

- Why does there need to be 3 bottles of conditioner in the shower? Is somebody using more than one?

- Why does there need to be two open jars of pickle rings and everything else in the fridge? Can't we finish one then open the other?

- Why does there need to be two dozen different flavored mustards in the Fridge? And how in the hell did two dozen new jars appear within days of having the new, purged fridge delivered?

That's what I wanna know.

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Originally posted by grace0418:
[qb] [QUOTE] Also, what's the worse that can happen if the seat is left down in the dead of night and a guy takes a piss without lifting the seat? Now think about the worse that can happen if the seat is left up in the middle of the night and a woman or man sit down to do whatever business is at hand?[/qb]

Sorry, my spelling has been horrible lately, and apparently we can't edit posts after a certain length of time anymore (not loving that change). So let me rewrite my sentence so as not to sound like an idiot:

Also, what's the worst that can happen if the seat is left down in the dead of night and a guy takes a piss without lifting the seat? Now think about the worst that can happen if the seat is left up in the middle of the night and a woman or man sits down to do whatever business is at hand...

My wife and i don't have many "niggles", i grew up in a house with 5 women and shared a bedroom with one of them until i was 17 (my twin sister) and moved in with my wife when i was 17 almost 18, so i'm pretty well trained.

There is one thing that my wife finds a bit annoying, and that is that i brush my teeth in the shower, whereas i see it as time saving, she finds it as creepy, so i'm tryin to give that up, old habits die hard though and i still think its a great time saver!

cheers,
Benji

Hrmph...men...

My son's wife will be one lucky chiquita...I taught him to lower the seat...ask "Can I do anything to help?"...open doors for all those armless girls in his future...

...and am now on a quest to get him to rinse the sink after he shaves...

With three men in the household, I gave up long ago on fighting the toilet seat battle. Now, I just check before I sit down!

I am guilty of the multiple bottles of shampoo and conditioner in the shower though. It seems like we never quite finish up any of the bottles, and then I have a coupon for some new kind that's guaranteed to make my hair shiny, fresh and manageable, so in it goes too. I cleared out about 15 bottles of hair stuff last weekend, each with about 1/8 inch of product left in the bottom. And all different types/scents, etc, so they couldn't be mixed together.


I blame the advertisers for making me buy so much stuff!


vch

One thing's long puzzled me about the loo seat debate - doesn't any one else have to keep the lid shut so that the cat doesn't fall in???

(One of ours did once.)

Carolyn

Ah now there's a thing as well.....cat domestic niggles! Why is it that my cat has a perfectly good drinking bowl but insists on drinking from one of the kids old green plastic boat thingys in the bathroom?
Nothing else will do and often I'm sitting on the loo with Iona crying at me like crazy for her morning green boat tipple

And to further the men and loos debate....why do they miss the god damned thing? There's plenty of room to aim for goodness sake!( try telling that to my two boys and they deny ever missing).

Channel flicking, that reaaaaaaally gets me down. How can someone decide whether something is worth watching after only seeing it for one eighth of a second?

Oh thank goodness! When I clicked onto this topic I thought it read 'domestic nipples'!!!

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Originally posted by jane:
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- Why does there need to be two dozen different flavored mustards in the Fridge?
That's what I wanna know. [/qb]

Jane! I have that problem too! It doesn't bother me all that much, but I did notice it more today after you mentioned it.
We currently have in our fridge:

Regular "Classic" mustard
Deli style (coarse ground) brown mustard
Hazelnut mustard
Jalapeno-cumin mustard
Spicy brown mustard

Why would anyone need five mustards?

I don't care though, it is just amusing.

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Originally posted by kylenano:
[qb] One thing's long puzzled me about the loo seat debate - doesn't any one else have to keep the lid shut so that the cat doesn't fall in???

(One of ours did once.)

Carolyn [/qb]

Oh yes, we have a cat with the feline version of Down's Syndrome, so that problem occured more than once. Our solution is that the cats are just not allowed in the bathrooms. It's better anyway because cat hair mixed with steam from the shower is a B**CH to clean up. Not to mention the dirty paw prints on everything. Oh, and how could I forget the time I startled Frankie sleeping behind the shower curtain by turning on the shower and he slipped in his mad dash to remove himself from the scene (and nearly severed one of my arteries in the process)?

One thing I wanted to mention about the toilet debate is that my husband never forgets to put the seat down. In fact, most of our domestic niggles (no, not nipples) are directed at me instead of him because he's the neat freak and I'm the slob. Just wanted to set the record straight on that.

He does, however, have three annoying habits that make me crazy, and they all involve electronics.

#1. He must maintain an iron fist of control over the tv remote. And I pity the fool who suggests that perhaps the commercials for the show we WERE watching are now over (10 minutes later) and perhaps we can stop watching the Three Stooges (or basketball game or infomercial) and go back to the original show. GOD FORBID.

#2. He insists on coming home and turning on the tv in the kitchen, even if you were already in there happily reading, or listening to some music, or whatever. Doesn't matter.

#3. He also controls the car stereo. He says "put on anything you want" so you select a cd (being careful to pick something you both enjoy because otherwise he starts immediately complaining). After one song he starts skipping tracks, then midway through the next song he allows to play, he switches to the radio. He channel surfs through all the crappy stations for awhile, turns it back to the cd, skips through two more songs, then ejects the cd and hands it to you. Rinse. Repeat. It's so annoying (especially when it's Neil Finn he's skipping through). I could understand if I kept putting in the same cd over and over again, but it doesn't matter if he's heard the cd one or 1000 times. ARGHHH!

Thanks for letting me vent that. Other than that he's lovely.

I had a roommate once whom was extra-anal about recycling, conservation, etc....I caught hell about failing to give the extra egg yolks to the dog AND dumping out the water in the teakettle to start with fresh....lights out prompty, etc. Yet she had about six tvs in her house and immediately when she walked in the first went on...then another went on when she walked past...on and on. She wasn't watching ANY of them. All different channels, all time of the day and night. Unless of course the kids wanted to watch and then off it went. Anyway, I always thought this was an "interesting" hypocrasy. Of course I have none of my own! Shelli

Re: Man's remote control fetish. I think it was Jerry Seinfeld who said, "Men don't want to know what's on TV, they want to know what else is on TV!"


So true.


vch

Is it possible to actually say something nice about men? As a male myself i find it a bit painful to read "Men do this wrong, they do that wrong, they're usless at this and that" C'mon, where's the love? We're not bad, we really arent.

Now that I'm out of a bad marriage, I see both sides of this coin.

On the one hand, I could list endless things that range from annoying to upsetting to "cruel and inhuman treatment" grounds for divorce in my state. I could say plenty of bad things about him and complain about "men" but I know that's only half of it... plus I'm not going to make one person's crap about an entire gender. I don't do racism and I'm not going to put all men down for what one or a handful have done.

The other side of the coin is that we picked these people. Granted, when we were first dating, he wasn't showing me fully who he really was, and that's a separate issue. But I chose to stay with him as long as I did, and I tried loving him for who he was.

I'd rather be alone than complain about someone I choose to include in my life. So I got out. I couldn't change him, and I can only recommend that you take charge and make your own changes happen. If that means separating, then it's for the best no matter how it feels. I never think it's good to be with someone who bothers you. I think it makes people want to control each other so they can "get that person in line" and make them who they want. That's some bad s**t in either direction if I may say, and you can't blame that behaviour on either person in the relationship.

Am I making any sense? I know what I'm thinking but I'm not sure I'm communicating clearly. And I'd also want to say that somewhere, on some online forum, your other half is posting about you just as much as you are posting about him/her.

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Originally posted by kylenano:
[qb] One thing's long puzzled me about the loo seat debate - doesn't any one else have to keep the lid shut so that the cat doesn't fall in???

(One of ours did once.)

Carolyn [/qb]

Or so that the dog doesn't try and drink from it??

Re the remote control thing... my boyfriend had a rather annoying obsession with watching Teletext all the time to check the football, read the headlines etc. he wouldn't wait till adverts (if any) he'd just put it on when he sat down. Up until friday night. When he dropped the remote in his soup (I have no idea how he managed it, I just heard the "awww! Crap!" as he picked it out). It won't work now so he's heartbroken he can't watch teletext until he buys a new remote. Mwhahahahahahah!

TV REMOTE KARMA!!!!!!

Re: the remote thing....
YES I soo do that too which must be annoying, I've just moved to Sweden and even do it here, even though I have no idea what the text is, I still have to check it... (stupid old habbits die hard)

Just for the record I am not condemning the whole male sector of the population or am I saying things about my hubby that I wouldn't say to him to his face while smiling and shaking my head.

I am also more than happy for him to quote anything on any forum about any of my bad domestic habits.

It's a light hearted giggle and sometimes it's better to have a whinge here than to be a nag elsewhere!

I chose him warts and all and certainly wouldn't send him packing for channel flicking or leaving the loo seat up.

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Originally posted by tonguetied:
[qb] Just for the record I am not condemning the whole male sector of the population or am I saying things about my hubby that I wouldn't say to him to his face while smiling and shaking my head.

I am also more than happy for him to quote anything on any forum about any of my bad domestic habits.

It's a light hearted giggle and sometimes it's better to have a whinge here than to be a nag elsewhere!

I chose him warts and all and certainly wouldn't send him packing for channel flicking or leaving the loo seat up. [/qb]

Well said! I agree. I love my husband to pieces, and I know I do plenty of annoying things. But it is nice to commiserate!

I do love my hubby too. We wouldn't have lasted 14 plus years if we didn't love each other.

He drives me nuts though. He does put the seat down. He even cleans. In fact, like Grace's situation, he is the neat freak and I am the slob. I am not so much of a slob as A) I work 45-50 hours a week and commute 2 plus hours a day. I leave at 7:15 and get home at 6:30- 7:00 (plus I get the little dude ready for school every morning and for bed most nights) and B) a little cat hair never hurt anybody, did it? WHO HAS TIME TO CLEAN??? But he won't let me hire a maid.

My female roommate is the one who never does anything. Luckily, I will get the last laugh when I move out. I never paid a security deposit. I took over for another roommate and asked several times who I need to pay for the damage deposit but she never got back to me.
I would not be such a b%tch about it if she had lifted a finger every once and a while. ( Or every once and a while asked me how I was doing, said hi to me, etc, etc )But, believe me, I'm cleaning my room and a few other things but that's it and good riddence!

p.s. I can relate to a cat drinking out of your glass. Her cat would do that all the time. Finally, I just filled up a glass with water and left it on a table in the living room.
Kitty is the only thing I will miss when I move out!

Here's a domestic niggle for ya:
My husband turns into a complete absent-minded-ignore-me-person when he gets a new electronic toy. I just started the topic Mac or PC because he just got a mac and all he does is sit there and stare at it! I can't get his attention!
He was the same with the palm pilot, the dvd player, the minidisc player, the turn tables, the list goes on.
Is this how all men are with electronics?
I feel so left out!

Oh yes....I remember 'Gameboy Widow Syndrome' or GWS for short

Originally posted by suenotsusan:

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a little cat hair never hurt anybody, did it? WHO HAS TIME TO CLEAN??? But he won't let me hire a maid.

When the house is in a complete mess, I sometimes remember a short story I heard on Radio 4 years ago. It was about the relationship between a cleaner - who liked everything to be perfect - and her employer who had quote on the wall: "An immaculate house is the sign of a wasted life."

I have to admit I veer between the two - I like the kitchen to be clean and (some hope!) my things in order so I don't have to spend ages finding something. But there has to be more to life than moving dust from one place to another.

I'd like to hear the story again, but I don't know if I could track it down now.

Carolyn

Why is it that when I am at my most tired and stressed that my 3 yr old decides to have an 'accident' during a tantrum all over the sofa?