... and ain't that the truth. (*sigh*)quote:Originally posted by Bsnifter:
[qb] a piece of paper does not and cannot fix a relationship.If it's problematic before marriage,it's only gonna get worse after.
Heidi mentioned the equal-power-balance thing. Sadly, I'm seeing that from the other side (as in learning this lesson from a bad relationship.) Just a f'r'instance: For legal reasons, I am unable to work in this country, but still every chance he gets, hubby whines that "he pays for everything" with the inference that I'm lazy and ungrateful and a bunch of other things I'm NOT... (in my previous relationship, by the way, I was the one who carried most of the financial burden for most of the time we were together.)
Anyway, to add my own "lesson learnt" - I'd say never marry someone who still bears major emotional scars from his previous marriage. Not only are you constantly on guard of your own flaws, you also end up being accused of things which it isn't in your nature to do.