Thanks, mabelle. And I don't need you to change... if you don't want one, don't get one! But man will I be sad if you're one of the 50% and you end up wishing you had one.
I think there is a misconception that a prenup greatly benefits ONE party... like the husband will get everything or the wife will clean the husband out, and ha ha. It doesn't have to be like that. It can be about equality and splitting things equally. Or it can be that in some areas, one person deserves more. Or it could be that if people split, one person promises to ____ for X months or until ______.
They can protect both people and they don't have to be one-sided. They can be changed as things change, and at least around here, they'd stand up in court. This isn't Los Angeles. Here in NY, contracts are taken damn seriously, and if I had one, this would have been over the day I said it's over.