respect thyself. always make changes to yourself for yourself.
trying to change people is a losing game. if you fall in love with a hint of something you see in someone you think you can bring out, forget it.
if you think they're so capable of changing - forget it. let them change themselves if they want to change. do not get involved with someone you want to change. then if they do change anyway - you won't have to have done the hard work. i've seen so so so many cases of it in good & bad
guys - if you divorce someone, misrepresent your income in the divorce court, and pay no child support whilst the divorce is waiting to go to court - i will hunt you down and kill you ok?