...whew! I don't go up to Neil after shows, though my husband does and I've had alot of Finn-interaction over the years that has been meaningful. Though I gave advise to the person who questioned wanting to meet Neil, I say this: he is a man, he's doing his job, etc...he's tired after shows and I bet a ton of people give him gifts, etc or say things he's heard a million times. When he tours, his life is in disarray (Who among us hasn't traveled for work and been bummed by it???) and he's stressed, I bet!
Neil is sooo personal on stage, involving the audience and all....maybe THAT is a persona and the real "him" isn't as cool or fun, I don't know. I do know he told my husband he doesn't like it when people ask him to sign stuff and he'd rather talk with fans.
I guess even going on a site like this is a bit odd, but I enjoy it and made a rather good friend due to this site, so there.
I will continue to go to shows and hide out when my husband goes to "stalk" Neil...and I'll cherish the Finntastic memories I have of Neil & Tim interactions at concerts and on webcasts!
I can say, though, that I am sure he is a good person, no matter how he acts after shows: he's the parent of 2 good sons, an honest husband, and a good brother, plus he's nice to fans during shows!