New anthology features an essay about Neil

Hey Frenz - In my civilian life I’m a writer, and have an essay coming out this month in a new anthology that is a fundraiser for breast cancer research and access to care. The book, entitled “Knowing Pains: Women on Love, Sex and Work in our 40s” ( contains reflections by 40-something women about all sorts of aspects of life in this decade. 100% of net proceeds going to the Breast Cancer Action Network (

My essay may be of particular interest to the Frenz community. “Fanning the Flames of Youth” talks about how important it is to have a passion in life as you age...and in my case how a 26+ year devotion to the music of Neil Finn has kept me youthful and focused, and enables me to rise above the temptations of Botox and facelifts. Here’s an excerpt:

"Speaking from my own experience, there are myriad tangible ways in which being a rock fan can keep a person young. Staying up to date with new music releases requires cutting-edge technological savvy. I bought my first Neil Finn music on vinyl when I was fourteen; his latest was downloaded to my laptop via a wireless connection and then transferred to my iPod. In order to stay abreast of his new projects, I, like Neil, have progressed from vinyl, to cassette, to CD, and now to digital downloading. Last weekend I spent an hour optimizing the media player on my laptop to watch a live Crowded House studio session, thereby adding another notch to my tech support belt on behalf of the man from New Zealand. I challenge any twenty year old to download a song faster than I do. Neil may be the reason I someday learn to text message.

Being a fan also provides a more compelling incentive for good health than any of the aging studies I’ve read in self-help magazines. Every two or three years, Neil tours with his band, including a visit to my town. That means it’s time to suck in my gut and put on my good concert jeans, high heeled boots and a shirt that communicates devotion just short of stalking. One never knows at which show one will finally be pulled onstage to sing along, or play ukulele, and one must be prepared. I have only to picture that magic moment as my Pilates instructor yells, 'Four more! Three more! Two more!' and I can dispel the image of my beating her with a handweight."

Half-Full and Texas Rose, you are name-checked further along in the the part about how being part of the Frenz community is good for cardiovascular health.

The book is available from Amazon and there are a number of readings planned, here in the Bay Area where I live and across the U.S. Check out the web site for more info and it would be great to have some FRENZ at the readings!

BTW I managed to get a draft copy of the essay to Neil via a roadie at the last Fillmore show in May…can only hope he got a laugh out of it!
Nancy "Gorhamgirl" Kho
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